We all want to be loved and have a happy and long-lasting
relationship with a person that we care about. Unfortunately, many
relationships end very quickly, because people fail to sustain them. If you
have a history of bad relationship in the past, this article can be really
helpful to you.
Having a strong and exciting relationship is an art that
should be learned and applied in every day's life. Here is a list of most
effective tips on how to have a good relationship.
1. Make
sure that your significant other feels your love, support and encouragement. It
is so nice to go home and know that there is someone ready to listen and to
comfort you if needed.
2. Relationships
are not only about taking; they are about giving as well. Try to brighten up
your partner's day by cooking a gourmet dinner, buying him/her a little gift or
arranging a romantic weekend for the two of you. Love is like a flame, if left
to the mercy of fate, it is dying down.
3. If
there is a problem between the two of you, never use a "silent
treatment", blame, blackmail, or humiliate the person that you love. It
will only lead to an argument or unneeded outbursts of anger. A lot more
effective approach is to discuss the problem and explain your feeling.
4. Never go
to bad mad at each other. Try to patch things up or call it a truce before the
bedtime. It will give you time to calm down and in the morning everything will
seem in different light.
5. Do not try to change your partner. You have to
face it! People don't change. We may try to learn from our mistakes and act a
little bit differently in some situations, but we can't become someone we are
not. You have to love the other person the way he/she is. Do not lower your
partner's self-esteem by making comparisons with other people and letting
him/her know that he/she is losing in comparison.
6. Give your partner some free space. Don't cling
and demand from the person that you care about to spend all of his/her free
time with you. Try not to start your sentences with "you should",
"you shouldn't". No one likes to be ordered around and told what to
do. You have to realize that you and your boyfriend/girlfriend have absolutely
equal rights in this relationship. You have to respect his/her wishes and
decisions even if you don't agree with them.
With the little patience, understanding and creativity you
can turn even the short affair into an amazing long-lasting passionate
relationship!
By Natalie Arton
